Forget FOMO and Embrace the “Joy of Missing Out”
You’ve probably heard of the term FOMO or “fear of missing out” – possibly in the context of someone making fun of millenials who say things like “I can’t believe I’m not going to Coachella this year I have so much FOMO”.
But it’s not just millennials who have this problem!
I used to get FOMO and it drove me a little crazy.
I couldn’t say no to any networking event or opportunity without feeling that if I didn’t go I would not only miss out, but be negatively affecting my business or the launch of my book.
We have this weirdly held belief among entrepreneurs that just around the corner is our big break or big meeting that can turn everything around. We just have to go to enough events or connect with the right people to find it.
It’s technically true but it can drive you insane. Or in my case make your appendix burst.
It’s time we started to admit the truth. Read more
Speare Helps Writers Become More Productive
We are all writers in some form.
Writing is such a brilliant creative outlet – whether you’re a journalist, blog writer, advertiser or just writing sassy emails to your office co-workers – writing is a core part of our lives.
People like to talk about writing as though its this magical process filled with moments of genius and innovation – which it can be.
But most of our time spent writing is spent sitting in front of a laptop, thinking about what to write.
So when you do decide to finally write a novel you’ve always dreamed off, or start up your own blog you tend to hit a roadblock.
Am I right?
Writing certainly isn’t as glamorous as it seems.
I’ve written before about how to break free from writers block, but today I want to share with you a powerful tool that can help expand your creativity and stop writer’s block before it even hits.
It’s called Speare and it’s designed to help you write in small bits to help pull together an entire project more quickly.
Rather than list all the benefits here I thought I would ask the app, Kent Sisco, to chat with me about them on my YouTube Channel.
In the video Kent and I chat all things writing and how in many ways, it all comes back to classic productivity methods.
Kent is actually a reader of this blog and read my book Listful Thinking too!
We met because he signed up for my online course Lights Camera Expert, which is designed to help experts, authors and entrepreneurs get and keep media attention.
He did the work and showed up to our live group calls and that’s how I got to know about the amazing productivity tool he created.
Plus he got himself some great media attention too! Being productive can come in handy for so many tasks 🙂
Writers from all backgrounds use Speare.
It’s not just for books or blogs but it’s even used by pastors!
Speare is designed for anyone with a passion for the written word – it’s name comes from Shakespeare after all!
To-Do List Wisdom from Mindy Kaling
It’s graduation season, which leads to plenty of people thinking about their long-term goals, not just college students. Often when we reminisce on the goals we had at graduation we focus on all the things we haven’t done.
But are we being too hard on ourselves?
Mindy Kaling thinks so!
When speaking at the graduation ceremony at Dartmouth College Mindy’s final advice to the graduating class was to “let it go.”
We may have a dozen goals in our head when we graduate and some of them may happen and some might not. It doesn’t mean you’ve failed or strayed from your path, just that life often doesn’t go the way you planned.
In previous posts I’ve talked of the importance of evaluating your long-term goals. It’s okay to accept that a goal might no longer be what you want or that you need to put it on the back burner while you focus on more important things. A perfect example of this is a woman I interviewed, author Karen Rizzo, she continually put “Learn Italian” on her list and guess what – never happened.
When evaluating long-term goals there are a few things to take into consideration:
Priorities – What we think is a top priority and what we actually spend most of our time and energy on can be two very different things. Depending on where we are in life our biggest priority can be different things, focusing on family, career or even our health.
Does your top priority line up with your daily habits? Check out the book Essentialism for ways to do this better. Maybe you want to get a new job, but you haven’t been to a networking event in months. Or you’re trying to take a step back with work, but still find yourself emailing at 10pm! Make sure your actions line up with your priorities. If they don’t then it might be time to reassess.
Diminishing Returns – The law of diminishing returns is used to refer to a point at which the level of profits or benefits gained is less than the amount of money or energy invested.
Essentially the more effort you put into something the less you get out of it. How annoying is that?
It’s good to remember though, when you feel like you’ve been pushing a goal or idea for too long – maybe it’s time to ease up a bit?
For example, how many times have you heard people say they found their romantic partner once they stopped looking? The same can be said for many other goals. I know a few people who have been stuck in the ‘research’ phase of writing a book, because they keep finding more and more information pulling them in different directions. At some point you just have to draw a line in the sand and start writing!
When it comes to your goals it’s as Mindy Kaling said –
“Don’t trust any one story of how to become successful.”
Find the path that works for you, it doesn’t have to look like what your 21-year-old self imagined.